Masturbation, Teens and What to Do About it
Tuesday, December 27th, 2005Shotgun Lesson in Marketing: How do you Sell something that doesn’t need to be Sold?
This question relates to a lot that is going on right now — so it is a timely answer to seek. The nearly-imponderable question phrased above suggests the following subsidiary questions, which may prove more approachable:
a — What is our role as Marketers of a product the demand for which awakens in every human being — like clockwork — in early life, and persists till death thereafter — ?
b — Is there a model somewhere for the optimal co-integration and balance of the Sex we have with other People and the Sexual Gratification we enjoy by ourselves, within the Sexuality of an Individual — ? — if so, what is it — ?
c — At a point in the life of every adolescent, his or her psychological orientation breaks away from the Parent Objects — descends into a Tunnel of Private Passage for several years — and emerges out the other side, determinedly fixed on lovers and spouses. The role of parents in shaping the Sexual Individuality of their children is undisputed, and it is an accepted truth in virtually all cultures of the world that the damage done to a child by a sexually transgressive parent is profound, irreparable, and disabling. Yet, why is there so little scrutiny and understanding (by the average parent) of the actual mechanics via which parents create their children sexually — ? — why is there so little effort given to, so little ability for, so much paralysis in the face of so important and vulnerable a phase in the development of a young human being — ? A failure of parenting at this time could completely nullify the parenting investment made in the child to that point. Arguably, EVERYTHING for the child is in jeopardy — but why do our parents always avert their eyes when we begin to sexualize? Why does this occur at the very same moment we first seek a deeper, more alone place in ourselves (a place never before discovered or visited)? Is this as it should be — ? — is this in our nature as Humans — ? Or, is it something we have learned in culture — ?
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